Written by: Cara

• Career Guidance
• Internships & Jobs

March 12th, 2008

In a recent article by Shawn Graham in JobPostings magazine, the author draws some eerie connections between job hunting and dating. While they may seem unrelated, the truth is that the process of dating to find a mate is a lot like the process of hunting to find a job.

I know. I don't like it either. But, since that's the way it is, try following a few of Graham's step to becoming successful in BOTH arenas...

Know what you're looking for (which means know yourself first.) I am a firm believer that the more familiar you are with your own strengths, interests, and values, the better you will be at targeting a specific field or career. And in the end, that means you will be happier and more successful in your profession. Similarly, when dating, you had better know what you're into and look for someone with similar interests if you want a successful match.

Networking = playing the field. Ever have a neighbor's friend set you up with her cousin's yoga instructor? It might make for a freaky date, but in the job search world, this is seen as a positive thing. Tap into your parents' friends, your alumni association... any resource that can widen your network and get you in touch with good contacts in the industry.

Prepare! You know how before a first date you think of questions to ask during the awkward silences? ...No? Um, yeah, no, I don't do that either... anyway... you should prepare in this manner before an interview. Researching the company and knowing the job description inside out and backwards will help you exude confidence and come up with appropriate questions to ask at the end of the interview.

Go for the goodnight kiss. NOT LITERALLY. But just as you would say goodbye after a great date ("We should do this again sometime," "Yeah, definitely, I'll call you,") the next steps should also be established at the end of the interview. Graham suggests that you "reaffirm your interest in the position... and ask about next steps in the interview process." And just to be clear, the appropriate physical contact here is a HANDSHAKE. Keep your lips to yourself.

Don't wait for them to call you. Prompt response after an interview is vital. After a date, you might initiate continued contact by sending a text the next day. You should follow up quickly after an interview, too, sending a thank you note within 24-48 hours. Keeping in touch with an employer in the days following your interview can be tricky. Don't assume anything and DON'T STALK THEM. Trust me, it will only turn them off. Strive for a balance of patience and persistence.

As a college student, you are probably a pro at the dating game. Bringing the same strategies, tactics and preparation to your job search will make you an exponentially more appealing candidate.

Just don't talk about your ex.

For the full article, "Job Hunting: Getting Past First Base", check out JobPostings magazine, available for free at the UW Career Center in 134 Mary Gates Hall.